Overcome Self-Doubt

 

I remember when I first got my Master’s Degree. The time we were told that we would be able to pass our exams, and then the day after we were told it was over. It didn’t feel like it. When we heard it, everything stopped for a moment. We had thought that we would get through it. But it didn’t make sense to me. At least, not yet.

Everything in this world is connected with the self-doubt. Whether your life has been good or bad, whether you are being stuck in a relationship, a career, a vocation, or even if you have found love! You have doubt about yourself. Not only about where you stand, but also what your worth is. You think everyone around you doesn’t value you. You feel as though your body was constantly telling you there was something wrong here. Your thoughts don’t help you. Most of the time they drown out your feelings and emotions. That makes it difficult for people to understand you.

Why do so many people suffer from this? Asking for help is never an easy thing to do and especially in today’s society. There are too many people who have become very introverted and try to block out the world by turning inward. They are usually unsuccessful, but because of all of their efforts and failures, they learned a lot about their inner being.

Everyone needs to come back up to reality, to themselves. To see themselves and not allow others to dictate how they should perceive them. They will find it much easier if anyone can share their experiences. All people are unique and deserve all the respect they deserve. I want to talk about finding support for overcoming one’s self doubt. If you can’t stand the way someone thinks your idea is, that will definitely affect your work performance. A good example is a situation that occurred to me recently. My boss had asked me to present a new product at some event and I wanted to impress him. He didn’t like it, and he said to me that he didn’t want to listen to another presentation of that same product, which made me frustrated with myself. Every task I did had a negative connotation, and the more I tried to argue him, the worse he felt. “Do as you please!” I couldn’t bear that, or I’d rather not attend the show. Being able to see and think without any fear or judgement was one of my main goals for that particular night. Unfortunately, that wasn’t possible. So, I started thinking about what the show meant, and I realized I am afraid. Of my ideas and my ability to speak aloud about them (and not give up).

How can I overcome my fear? I could start working on trying to accept myself. Then, I could work on letting my ideas go instead. One of the most important things I want to learn is to accept myself and to not judge people the way they see you. If I can’t be myself, I can’t be happy with myself and the way I live my life.

I need to stop judging and blaming myself. Accepting the fact that there are no perfect people is important. This helps a lot in dealing with the pain of your past. After all, your mistakes weren’t your fault. Your self-doubts weren’t based on reality. And you shouldn’t hold yourself to expectations. You can’t expect someone to love you or treat you the right way just because you are a pretty face and pretty eyes. Don’t get mad at other’s flaws. Instead, accept their flaws. Let them know that they aren’t perfect either. Be honest with yourself and let yourself be more vulnerable. This will definitely take a huge amount of courage, but if you can keep moving forward and facing challenges, you will definitely be okay very soon. Remember that every challenge will eventually end and there will always be a silver lining. There is no such thing as a challenge, and each challenge is part of learning more about oneself. Life is short, and sometimes everyone won’t want their opinion heard. No matter how hard you try, how much you fight against this fear, you will succeed one day.